You can read a room before you’ve set your bag down.
Whose face went flat, who got quiet, who needs something before they’ve noticed they need it.
When the people around you are happy, you get to be okay for a while.
“I am good enough when this person is happy.”
Your relationships run on, an exchange rate.
Whatever you hand over is the reason you get to stay, and perfect is the going rate.
Nobody taught you that on purpose.
You learned it inside the relationships you’ve already had, the romantic ones and the friendships and the family you came up in.
The question that keeps you awake has come loose from any one person or argument.
It points at whatever’s closest, and it always sounds the same. Am I good enough.
Underneath that one sits the question you don’t say out loud: whether anywhere would still take you if people saw who you actually are.
You don’t have to be perfect to be good enough.
You are safe here.
However you feel on a given day, you have a person.
I don’t need anything from you except for you to show up.
Between sessions, when something lands hard, reach out. You’re not bothering anybody, and I signed up for this.
I explain the purpose behind everything I ask, because therapy should make sense to the person doing it.
We work on all of you, including the parts you’ve kept quiet because they never earned anybody’s approval.
When your mind races out ahead to read somebody’s face, you’ll get skills to slow it down.
I’m certified in DBT, so those skills are specific enough to use in the middle of a conversation.
You matter.
Stability inside two or three months is realistic.
It looks like a day that doesn’t swing on somebody else’s mood.
Your confidence stops depending on who’s in the room.
You get curious about what you actually like.
Your relationships get interesting instead of costly.
You start trying things without weighing whether they’re big enough to count.
Your existence is good enough.
Fill out the contact form on this site and we’ll get a free 15-minute consultation on the calendar.
Sessions happen in my Catawissa office or virtually, anywhere in Pennsylvania.
Fifteen minutes, and nothing required of you but showing up.
