EMDR

Somebody Gave You a Word for It

Somebody handed you the phrase “treatment resistant.”

A professional said it out loud, or you arrived at it on your own after the fourth good therapist and the fourth ending that looked like the first three. Either way, you kept it.

“Is this just my life?” runs under most of your days now, and you’ve learned to work around it.

Feeling stuck after years of therapy

Nobody Ever Asked What You Were Up Against

You’ve tried everything you can think of. The trying was never the part that failed.

Talk therapy asks the part of you that has language to explain the part that never got any.

Maybe it’s not resistance. What if it’s survival?

Your Brain Didn’t Finish With It

I’m trained in EMDR.

Some memories get stored while your body is still mid-emergency, so your brain never gets to finish the work on them.

Those parts of you have gone unattended ever since, and they keep arriving in the present as though they happened this morning.

EMDR uses bilateral stimulation, guided eye movement or tapping, left and right, while you hold a piece of that memory and let your brain finish.

The Work Bends Around You

The work is uncomfortable in places, and you’ll still be the one setting the speed.

There’s no fixed script here. The bilateral piece stays constant, and everything past it gets built around you: the pacing, what we target, how far we go in a sitting, when we stop for the day.

We won’t open a memory until you can close it again in the same hour.

EMDR therapy paced to the client

What I Will and Won’t Promise You

I won’t make promises I can’t keep.

And you won’t hear me guarantee that I’m the one who heals you, because that call was never mine to make.

Here’s the short list of what I will promise.

  • You’ll hear the truth from me, including the days when the truth is that I don’t know yet.
  • Your trust gets earned. However long that takes.
  • I don’t get to decide how your life goes. We talk it through, and then it’s your call.
  • The answers are yours to find. I’ll do the looking with you.
  • You’ll never have to describe a memory in more detail than you want to.

When the Memory Stops Running Your Week

You sleep through a night, then another one. The memory turns up and the rest of the week goes ahead without it.

Most adults I work with get there inside two or three months, and there’s more work waiting after it.

Nothing about you has to be repaired first for any of this to take.

You Know What the Last Four Never Reached

You came back for another attempt after the last ones ended the way they did. That tells me plenty about what you’ve got to work with.

Book 15 free minutes through the contact form on this site.

That conversation is yours to run, so ask me whatever you need to ask to decide whether I’m worth a fifth try.